Real People Real Talk

The Greener Grass Illusion

• Paul Calcote • Episode 200

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Have you ever caught yourself scrolling through social media, convinced everyone else's life looks better than yours? That their relationships seem more fulfilling, their careers more successful, their spiritual journeys more meaningful? The truth is powerfully simple: the grass isn't greener on the other side—it's greener where you water it.

In this milestone 200th episode celebrating five years of ministry, we dig deep into the dangerous illusion of comparison that steals our joy and blinds us to God's unique blessings in our lives. Drawing from Galatians 6:7-9, we explore how what we sow today determines what we'll reap tomorrow. When we focus on nurturing our own lives rather than envying others, we discover the fruits of our labor blossoming in ways that bring true fulfillment.

Through biblical wisdom and practical insights, we examine three critical aspects of this journey: understanding the deception of comparison, recognizing the importance of nurturing what God has already given us, and learning to plant seeds of faith in our daily lives. The parable of the talents reminds us we're responsible for stewarding our gifts, while Paul's words in Philippians teach us contentment is ultimately a choice we make every day.

What if your perfect life is already growing right under your feet? Stop comparing yourself to others' carefully curated highlight reels and start investing in your own garden. 

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Welcome and thanks for tuning in to Real People, real Talk, relevant conversations that take you from surviving to thriving. This is the podcast that goes there. My name is Paul Calco and I'm your host. Now let's talk. Well, hello, thriver, and welcome to Real People, real Talk, the podcast ministry that equips you to thrive in your walk with the Lord, to thrive in your relationships and to thrive in your mental and emotional health, and thank you so much for tuning in today. This month, in May, we are celebrating five years of ministry, our podversary, if you will. At the time of this recording, we have nearly 54,000 downloads spread across each and every continent. That represents 126 countries and 2,432 cities, to be exact.

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I want to give a major shout out to India, the UK, germany and Australia for rounding out the top five, along with the USA, and the top states include Texas, georgia, tennessee, ohio and my home state of Mississippi. But whatever country you are listening from, whatever state you are listening from, I appreciate you and all I can say is to God be the glory and thank you so much for listening, supporting and sharing Wherever you are listening from. Let me say that one more time, you are indeed appreciated and even prayed for All. I can ask that you will keep praying for me and even prayed for. All I can ask is that you will keep praying for me and keep sharing this podcast with others. And in addition to all of that, this is episode 200. Time flies. But now to the content at hand Today. I want to delve into a saying that many of us have heard the grass isn't greener on the other side, it's greener where you water it. This phrase perfectly captures the journey of life, the pursuit of happiness and what it means to really find contentment in our own experience. I really want to explore and unpack what it means to truly water our own grass, to cultivate our lives and to embrace the specific and unique journey that God has laid out for each of us individually.

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Today's primary scripture comes from Galatians, chapter 6, verses 7 through 9. Do not be deceived. God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please the flesh from their flesh will reap destruction. Whoever sows to please the spirit from the spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. This scripture is a powerful reminder that our lives are like gardens what we choose to plant today will determine the harvest that we will reap tomorrow. If we focus on nurturing our own lives, we will see the fruits of our labor blossom in ways that I truly believe will bring about joy, will bring about fulfillment and will bring about purpose.

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So, point number one the illusion of comparison. It's necessary, it's imperative, it's critical to consider the dangers of comparison. In 2 Corinthians 10 12, paul writes we do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise. You've heard the saying before that comparison can be the thief of joy. And what an accurate statement, as comparison can lead us to believe that we are not enough, it can lead us to believe that we lack what others have, and it can create a sense of discontentment if it goes unaddressed.

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We scroll through social media seeing these carefully curated images of others lives and we start to believe that their grass is greener than ours. Of others' lives and we start to believe that their grass is greener than ours. And that's one of the downsides of this particular advancement of technology, the downside of social media we only get to see and edit it an often inflated view into only the good parts of a person's life. We are constantly bombarded with images and with videos of people that seem to have it all together, that seem to have a much better life than us, but we really have no clue what's going on behind closed doors. So I just want to remind you that what you see on the outside often doesn't reflect the hard work, the sacrifices and the faithfulness that others have poured into their own lives. When we look at it from that perspective, when we compare ourselves to others, we can end up failing to appreciate the unique calling and the unique journey that God has for us. We fail to appreciate what God wants to do for us as individuals, what God wants to do for us as individuals. God, in his mercy, in his grace, has crafted each of us with a specific purpose and a plan. Instead of looking over the fence at your neighbors or at your friends, we should really focus on our own garden, focus on our own grass. Let me ask you a few questions to reflect upon. Are you watering your relationships with love and kindness? Are you nurturing your career with dedication and integrity? Are you cultivating your spiritual life through prayer and Bible study? In other words, what seeds are you planting and are you watering your own grass Instead of looking at somebody else's grass and oh, their grass is so green. What are you doing to make sure your grass is green? Point number two the importance of nurturing our own lives.

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In Matthew 25, jesus tells the famous parable of the talents. In this parable, a master entrusts his servants with different amounts of talents, and the ones who invest and work so hard with what they have been given are rewarded. But the servant who buried his talent out of fear loses everything. The parable teaches us that we are responsible for what God has given us. Friend, let me ask you yet another question or two. Are you using your gifts and your talents wisely? Are you maximizing the moment? Are you maximizing this current season that you're in? Are you investing in your family, in your community and in your spiritual growth? In other words, what are you doing with what God has given you? What are you doing with what god has given you? Don't worry about keeping up with the jones. Tend to what god has given you, be faithful, be content and be grateful. I gotta say that one more time be faithful, be content and be grateful. Consider this when you focus on cultivating your own life, you will begin to see the beauty that you have. You will start to appreciate the relationships that you've built, the work that you have accomplished and all the blessings that God has already given you.

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Looking at someone else's grass and comparing yourself can lead to jealousy and, if you aren't careful, it will blind you to what God has already graciously blessed you with. In addition to that, let us remember the importance of perseverance. Take a look at Colossians, chapter three, verses 23 and 24. Whatever you do, work with all your heart as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as your reward. It is the Lord Christ that you are serving. So listen, my friend. When we put our hearts into our work, our relationships, our spiritual lives, we are ultimately serving God, and that is where true fulfillment lies. So beware of the illusion of comparison and understand the importance of nurturing your own life.

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And lastly, point number three, I want to encourage you to plant seeds of faith as you look at your grass, as you look at your gardens. We must cultivate a spirit of gratitude and contentment in our lives. Instead of envying what others have, let's celebrate their blessings. Start each day by actually counting your blessings, both big and small, and when you do that, it just will nurture a heart of gratitude and you will begin to see the grass that you have, the grass that you water, is actually green. The grass, indeed, is greener where you water it. Water your marriage instead of comparing it to others. Sow those seeds of romance and kindness and love and you will see your marriage begin to blossom and to flourish. For example, be willing to put in the work and to take care of your own grass, your own relationships, your own job, your own home, your own car. Don't be jealous of what your neighbor drives. Don't be jealous of what your friend or family member or church member may drive. Take care of and keep clean the vehicle that God has given you.

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In this season, I was listening to a podcast and I ran across this quote that said growth and improvement comes from investing the time, the energy, the attention and effort into our own grass. Hear this. We often think that what we don't have is better than what we do have, because all we know is what we have. So be careful with that. In Philippians 4, 11 through 13, paul writes I'm not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all things through him who strengthens me. I can do all things through him who strengthens me. These words of the Apostle Paul reminds us that contentment is a state of mind and it is a choice that we must make every single day.

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When you focus on watering your own grass, you will find fulfillment in your unique path and recognize that God has a purpose for every season in your life. So, once again, let me say this the grass isn't greener on the other side, it's greener where you water it. Stop looking at, stop comparing yourself to, and stop being jealous of other people's lives, their marriage, their home, their clothes, their kids or their education, and begin to focus on and praise God for the things that he has already given you, because comparison can lead you to disappointment. Comparison can lead you to an overall bad mood, thus stilling your joy. I want to encourage you to commit to watering your own grass, invest time in your relationships, cultivate your talents, deepen your faith and remember the words of Galatians 6.9. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.

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This week, this day, I just want to challenge you to identify at least just one area of your life that needs and needs more attention. Maybe it's your relationship with a loved one, or your career, or your spiritual journey. Water it with love and patience and faith. And let us also remember that growth takes time, just as a garden or deep, green, lush grass doesn't happen overnight. Your life is not going to transform in an instant, but with consistent effort and consistent care, you want to see the fruit of your labor blossoming in a beautiful way. Let's pray, heavenly Father. We thank you for the gifts that you have given us. Help us to focus on our own garden, our own grass, and to water it and to nurture it with care. Lord, help us to be good stewards over what you have blessed us with. Teach us to appreciate our own blessings and to trust your plan for our lives. May we find contentment in the journey that you have set before us, in Jesus name Amen.